Darla Hansen: The Better Half of Robert Hansen

I’m not sure whether the filmmakers in “The Frozen Ground” meant to protect Robert Hansen’s wife or not. Whatever their motives, they renamed her, called her “Fran Hansen.” Her name is Darla. Darla Marie Henrichsen Hansen. That fact has been known since Butcher, Baker was first published in 1991.

Darla was Bob’s second wife. The one who, to some degree at least, knew what she was getting into. She married him in the aftermath of his Iowa arson conviction. Stood by him when he was arrested and convicted for trying to steal a chainsaw from an Alaska retailer. Stood by him when he was arrested and convicted for an attempt to kidnap a young woman — at gunpoint — from her apartment in south Anchorage. Visited him in jail, kids in tow, though even Bob knew it was profoundly humiliating for her. Stayed with him though he was verbally abusive to her and the children.

Darla Hansen
Darla Henrichsen (Hansen)

I met Darla Hansen in the immediate aftermath of her husband’s conviction for the murders of dozens of young women in Alaska. Those interactions, plus Sgt. Glenn Flothe’s insights into the woman, provide a glimpse into this complex person. What she knew, when she knew it, how she survived.

Darla told Flothe that she knew her husband was up to no good. She had, after all, already travelled that road. She thought, though, that it didn’t go beyond him seeing prostitutes in the wee hours before starting work at the bakery. And, really, who could imagine what Robert Hansen was actually up to? Even at his worst, he hadn’t been that evil.

Because Darla was deeply religious, she also thought she could help him. That getting Bob to attend church would guide him toward a path of righteousness. After each arrest, he deigned to go to church with her for a while. But Bob’s church was the Alaska wilderness; it was his refuge and his chief preoccupation, for both good and bad.

It was not too surprising then that, after many years, Bob and Darla ended up living separate lives. Darla had her own income source, from tutoring learning disabled children. She paid the house expenses, she took care of their two children. Summer vacations saw her and the kids going to Arkansas, where she had family. Bob stayed behind, ostensibly to mind the bakery. The money from the bakery, Darla told Sgt. Flothe, was Bob’s separate money. They did not mingle their funds.

By the time Darla decided to leave Anchorage in the aftermath of Bob’s crimes, that separation was complete, at least legally. She was divorced from Bob and the house was hers, free and clear. She told me her neighbors wanted her to stay in Anchorage, but she didn’t see how she could raise her kids there, not now, after all that had been revealed about their father. It was an eerie feeling as she guided me through the house, the stuffed animals that haunted Cindy Paulson still on the walls of the den.

The woman I met was a tall, big-boned woman who radiated a quiet, almost resigned, strength. Intelligent, too. In all her years of wandering the Midwest with Bob, before they moved to Alaska, she managed to get a Master’s degree in Education. But Bob was her blind spot.

To my mind, the same Christianity that kept her whole and gave her hope was the Christianity that forgave Bob his sins, that kept her with him, if only for the sake of the kids.

When I attended one of Darla’s Bible study groups at a private home south of Anchorage, I was struck by the steadfastness of her religious community. These church friends let me know that “they knew,” and were standing by her. The topic that day was about “talking to God.” Bible verses were read to illustrate the practice. Each attendee testified to his or her own experiences. When it came Darla’s turn, she confessed to talking to God every day. That was not shocking.
But even these deeply religious people were slightly taken aback when Darla said, “Sometimes God talks to me.”

Darla missed it, but one of the attendees discretely rolled his eyes.

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15 thoughts on “Darla Hansen: The Better Half of Robert Hansen”

  1. Was her church Abbott Loop? I grew up in Anchorage in the 70s, and my family attended that church. I remember my parents’ whispers when he was arrested and grew up believing he was the father of one of my church friends.

      1. Darla was also active in a Bible Study group with some of her church friends. I had the privilege of attending that study group with Darla, at someone’s home. They supported her with no questions asked. True brothers and sisters in Christ.

    1. That is not true. I spoke to Darla Hansen in 1984, in person, and she confirmed that she and Bob were divorced. It was a big deal, because the divorce put all the property in her name, thus making it possible for her to sell her Anchorage house and leave the state.

      1. I was also going to ask this same question as I saw on Wikipedia that he was married to his second wife until the day he died… Perhaps you could update the Wiki site with this firsthand info you have? Even her name is not listed…

  2. I hope their children (now adults) were able to bring some kind of peace, forgiveness, stability to their heart, mind and soul. A very different thing for a adult to be a spouse learning about such unhuman acts. A child learning their father was this person performing these acts is a very different absorbtion of feelings. My heart and prayers go to all who were effected by this awful creature.

  3. I was roommates with the daughter in the late 80’s early 90’s in Arkansas. She was in fact deeply affected and even then wanted privacy. She had her dads stutter and was self conscious but spectacularly gorgeous. Please leave her alone. She is a dear, sweet human whose dad was a monster. I’ve lost touch with her over the years and I’m certain she does not want to be found.

    1. She deserves privacy and it’s not her fault what Bob did. It must be awful for her and her mother to go through what they did. I’m a true crime fan and Its my opinion that Bob’s children are victims in this too. I dont think that anyone blames them for anything their father did. I’m sure she does love her father as every child does.

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